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This is a continuation of a piece that was received with praise and contention in April 2022. The piece was an unpopular opinion about not being the upstander or whistleblower when witnessing a bully’s actions for the brief high of moral righteousness you get to feel from being a temporary Saviour. It’s now June 2023 and people seemed to have discarded their idealistic ‘see something, say something’ mantra for a more realistic approach while licking upstander injury wounds.
There are definitely ways of dealing with a bully. But there are a number of conditions you need to meet before you can execute the strategies. One of the conditions is you have a manager or supervisor who does nothing to improve the situation and tells you all to ‘just work it out’.