The last time Katherine Brodsky and I had one of our recorded conversations on narcissism, we discussed con artists like Tinder Swindler and Anna Delvey, how they succeed at deception and how to prevent being conned.
This conversation was inspired by a forbidden conversation Katherine had with Nicki Clyne that referred to the infamous cult NXIVM and its convicted leader Keith Raniere. I could not take my eyes and ears off this video and had a running commentary about what was NOT said as much as what was shared. Our exchange prompted a follow up conversation.
In this video, we discuss power dynamics, consent, grooming, dominance and hierarchies. These are tricky topics to cover because so many of the behaviours we discuss are typical in relationships, and are approaches any of us might take when we’re forming new relationships. We could have definitely dove deeper into some of the themes, so if there’s anything you wanted to hear more about, let me know by commenting below.
I also encourage pushback and challenging anything that either of us mentioned. Comment below with your thoughts about our conversation.
In case you don’t already know Katherine, she’s a writer with an overactive imagination and a random mind. Outside of Substack, you’ll find her work in publications such as Newsweek, WIRED, Variety, The Washington Post, The Guardian, Esquire, Playboy, Mashable, CNN Travel, The Independent, and many others. Consider subscribing to her Random Minds Substack and while you’re at it, subscribe to mine.
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Nathalie Martinek, PhD
The Narcissism Hacker
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Curious about me? I’m a Narcissism Hacker, writer and educator about all things narcissism in relationships. Outside of Substack, I’m an independent researcher and global consultant for leaders, investors and executives helping individuals/teams navigate professional relationships that feature narcissistic behaviours to prevent psychological, financial and reputation harm. You can find out more and read my book on assertiveness here.