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Sep 5, 2022Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

Couldn't attachment style and/or poor boundaries drive this relationship (on both sides)?

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Absolutely. These be anxious attachment styles on either side. When someone is used to taking and the other is always expected to give, we've got some boundary issues right there!

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Sep 5, 2022Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

For me it was called a good Catholic upbringing... I see it this in myself, siblings, parents in a savior/martyr role where giving provides cover from doing innerwork.. Its easier to stay in the familiar and consume.. and that's the conditioning.. seeking comfort and security above all at the risk of never having meaningful relationships.

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There's always someone roped into cleaning about the family's messes so no one actually has to change. It really is easier to stay in the familiar and take from others, blame others for not doing what you expect and never doing anything to change in order to cultivate healthy relationships. Thanks for your throughtful comments as always Rachel!

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