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Traci Ruble's avatar

Nathalie I have been trying to refine my thinking on this. Have some sticky situations at the moment so always appreciate you doing some of the intellectual lift here for me. Thank you.

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The Strategic Linguist's avatar

This is so important. You don’t have to have full-blown NPD to behave like one, at times, when power and status are at play aka the workplace. It can make it feel like a threatening and unsafe place just by these subtle dynamics at play. I love that you explain these subtleties, thank you.

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Colleen's avatar

Shame has been identified as the driving force underlying domestic violence/abuse. Shame and entitlement.

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Nathalie Martinek PhD's avatar

Yes- disowned, unprocessed shame is a driver of all narcissistic behaviour but likely not the only emotion involved. Contempt, envy, disgust, hatred operate with shame to promote violence that the perpetrator feels is justified.

Shame that is acknowledged and owned requires maturity to drive healthier and restorative behaviour.

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Jake Wiskerchen's avatar

My pleasure!

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