The Hacking Narcissism Substack was birthed (in July 2021) because I wanted to help people:
see hidden factors that form the blueprint of all relationships.
detangle from the web of suffering caused by dissatisfying, hurtful, hierarchical, dominance-based and confusing behaviours that occur between people in relationships.
learn about content and descriptive processes to disrupt relationship status quo and reconstruct mutually beneficial relationships.
improve their relationship with shame and other emotional states that impulse narcissistic behaviour.
stop contributing drama, aggression and problems to life.
find peace.
An adaptation of the narcissistic family system/tree to draw a parallel between roles we play in our family of origin and roles that we re-enact in our workplaces or any hierarchical community. Graphic and concept by Nathalie Martinek PhD.
For this birthday week (until May 8), I thought I could prompt each of you lovely amazing supportive readers to think about where you began your life that formed the blueprint for all your relationships.
Your family.
I’m going to hold a discussion about the origin of narcissism in families and other concepts covered in this piece and take questions live on the social audio app Clubhouse on May 4, 7pm EST/4pm PST/ May 5 9am AEST. You can find the invitation to join this discussion here.
I will then drop an edited version of that recorded discussion back in this post so you can listen to the discussion later on.
The more you learn about your origin story and blueprint that has formed the architecture of all of your relationships, the more equipped you are to deliberately disrupt unhelpful patterns and change the trajectory of your life.
To get us all thinking and reflecting on how our relationships in our families have shaped all our future relationships, I’ll ask these questions:
What gets you down about relationships?
What do you want to understand better about your family, your in-laws, your workplace community, friendship group or any community that you belong to in relation to narcissism (as I describe it here)?
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Narcissism in your family
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It’s my birthday today! 🎈🎂🍾🎉
In honour of the day, I’ve made one of my premium publications on the origin of narcissism in families free to view for one week.
The Dysfunctional Family System: the Origin of Relational Narcissism
The Hacking Narcissism Substack was birthed (in July 2021) because I wanted to help people:
see hidden factors that form the blueprint of all relationships.
detangle from the web of suffering caused by dissatisfying, hurtful, hierarchical, dominance-based and confusing behaviours that occur between people in relationships.
learn about content and descriptive processes to disrupt relationship status quo and reconstruct mutually beneficial relationships.
improve their relationship with shame and other emotional states that impulse narcissistic behaviour.
stop contributing drama, aggression and problems to life.
find peace.
For this birthday week (until May 8), I thought I could prompt each of you lovely amazing supportive readers to think about where you began your life that formed the blueprint for all your relationships.
Your family.
I’m going to hold a discussion about the origin of narcissism in families and other concepts covered in this piece and take questions live on the social audio app Clubhouse on May 4, 7pm EST/4pm PST/ May 5 9am AEST. You can find the invitation to join this discussion here.
Join the live discussion
I will then drop an edited version of that recorded discussion back in this post so you can listen to the discussion later on.
The more you learn about your origin story and blueprint that has formed the architecture of all of your relationships, the more equipped you are to deliberately disrupt unhelpful patterns and change the trajectory of your life.
To get us all thinking and reflecting on how our relationships in our families have shaped all our future relationships, I’ll ask these questions:
What gets you down about relationships?
What do you want to understand better about your family, your in-laws, your workplace community, friendship group or any community that you belong to in relation to narcissism (as I describe it here)?
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Your responses will help frame the discussion of the conversation on May 4 (May 5 here in Australia).
Thank you again for being here, wanting to learn, understand yourself and others better and willing to make changes to improve your life.
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Nathalie Martinek, PhD
The Narcissism Hacker