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I shared some sociological thoughts on this recently having seen this in the workplace and having a wife in nursing... https://open.substack.com/pub/jamesrichardson/p/why-women-treat-other-women-like?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

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This is an excellent piece James. Thank you for sharing it! Nursing is its own beast with the most literature on lateral violence and military like hierarchy.

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Thanks for reading!

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Jul 25Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

Ooh so good 👏👏👏👏

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Thanks. Really interesting. Yes, power for anyone is addictive if powerlessness has been entirely unsafe. I had a little look at the life of Marilyn Monroe through this lens. Not aggressive and not only narcissistic, but narcissistic just the same.

https://open.substack.com/pub/marcusmorris/p/icon-no-1?r=27zldx&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

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Thank you Dr Morris. I'm going to have a look at your analysis of MM and comment there. I'm alway trying to write about the safeguards to power addiction but I also know that I haven't cracked that code yet within myself. Wanting to be in and being in the entertainment industry is a risk in itself.

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Great - let me know what your thoughts are Natalie - positive or nagative!

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Apr 11, 2023Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

Another excellent article Nathalie!

I’m currently dealing with bullying in my new job from a Gen Zer, and I’m an elder millennial that’s had to take several steps down in my career to join a particular organisation. Having to stick within the lower-level box is taking its toll when it comes to her. The reality of “exclusion” really weighs on me despite being older and wiser (though it may not seem like it!). My way of getting through it is to be nice to her, however the passive aggression is becoming really difficult. Thank you for your knowledge and guidance in your work.

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Thank you Mayesha!

When I read your comment, it made me wonder if there's also a racial component to her targeting you. I also wondered if others are noticing her behaviour and making comments or she reserves her attacks to when no one else is around.

Her insecurity or jealousy is fuelling her shitty behaviour and she's putting in quite a bit of effort to assert dominance over you. The less you need to interact with her the better!

I hope you're documenting every aggressive behaviour, email message and that you have witnesses who can co-sign your evidence. At some point, she's going to need to be managed by whoever she reports to.

Strength and power to you Mayesha!

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I read this article today as well as the article and commentary from your March 8th piece soliciting comments from women in the workplace. Although, I know you are trying to help women, I think your efforts are littered with divisive terms and labels. Like right here, Mayesha said nothing about her race and I take it that you assumed you knew that by her posted name only. Therefore, you went straight to the possible racial element of her problem. Don’t you see how difficult it is for women to just be women together and leave out all of these worthless subcategories? As a women who tries to encourage other woman, no matter their age, marital status, religion or color, I find these labels an impediment to unity. I say that respectfully Nathalie.

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I agree. I’ve been bullied by women of all generations and races. It always came down to their own insecurities and need for power and control. Putting such a strong spotlight on race or age is a slippery slope.

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This a great summary, I liek the break down and themes.

My only comment as a GenXer is that I have also experience bullying from Boomer women. I think it is not so much specific to the generation as much as who is higher up in the power structure.

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Thanks for clarifying Shailla!

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Mar 31, 2023Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

Really like the themes—they helps me see patterns of aggression from my own life.

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I found this piece very interesting.

I am a little confused about who might fall into this category. I follow some excellent people on social media such as

https://instagram.com/unwellunlimitedly?igshid=MjAxZDBhZDhlNA==

And find that their work that looks at the systemic and structural issues in accessing healthcare so affirming to me.

As I have been dismissed and disabled by these institutions. Naturally I am traumatised by my experiences and seek to understand these institutions better.

I also trained as an OT years ago and always left off in these places. Like everyone was following a script that I didn't get.

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