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Nathalie Martinek PhD's avatar

I'm sorry Kelly. It was never going to turn out well for you because the setup was already so rigged. I wish your circumstances could have been different that healing between you and your parents would have been possible. It means that your siblings, at least one of them, was invisible. Rather than direct their resentment toward the parents, they aimed at you. Everyone loses in this kind of family system until individual members choose to walk free.

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Kelly Thompson TNWWY's avatar

Yes. Thank you. It never was. I have 4 siblings united in their resentment of me. All the roles. Hero, invisible, mascots (4girls and 1 boy total - I was #3 boy was #4 - he and #5 sis were mascots #1 hero #2 invisible alleged rebel. I’m the family scapegoat even as mother’s favorite. Boy and #1 share hero eventually. 2 gets visible by default when everyone else moves away from parents 😂 I distanced them all 9 years ago.

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Nathalie Martinek PhD's avatar

Nothing like a setup like that to drive you out. I'm glad you found your way out and back to yourself.

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Kelly Thompson TNWWY's avatar

Thanks! Me too as sad as it is. No other option for me.

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